Just imagine: someone or something kicks you out of your house, separates you from your possessions, and prevents you from getting back in.
Where do you go? Really, where do you go and what do you do? What is your action plan? Do you even have one? Is there even a place where you can stay immediately? What about medium to long term?
Well this scenario is far from being hypothetical for all too many innocent and loving men. A simple false allegation of spousal abuse, or sexual assault, of child abuse, or even just claiming to be “scared” by a woman is enough to initiate such a grueling process.
How does it work?
The woman gets a restraining order placed on you, you get kicked out of your house by the police, with no time to pack, and you can’t get back in, can’t get your stuff. Think you can go to court and argue in front of a judge to lift an unfair and unjustified restraining order based on unsubstantiated allegations? Good luck with that, it will take weeks to months to get a hearing, if you even get one at all, and once you do, if you do, you’re quite unlikely to get the order rescinded.
If false allegations of rape or violence or abuse are made, you go straight to jail, do not pass Go, do not collect $200. Just like that.
“How can this be?” You ask.
Well this is the crux of the problem. Men’s due process rights have been erodedto such an extent that they are outright being denied and ignored.
So again, let me ask you: where do you go?
A hotel? That’s expensive, and is no place to live. Another apartment or house? Again very expensive, particularly when you’re still required to pay mortgage on the house you’ve been evicted from.
Think it can’t happen to you? Well it happens to lots of unsuspecting men all the time. 50% of marriages end up in divorce, 70% of which are initiated by women, often for trivial reasons such as “boredom” or “falling out of love” (whatever that means).
You’ll cohabitate before getting married to make sure she’s the right one? Well that
may will very likely lead you to being married without even knowing it, let alone consenting to it or signing any sort of contract.
It can and will happen to you, one psychotic break or whim is all it takes. A bit of greed on her behalf, nothing more.
Not to mention, women in the process of initiating a divorce or in a child custody battle are also all the more likely to file false allegations to gain the upper hand.
Not convinced you have NO rights? See the examples in the following videos:
So, you may be asking, “what can I do about this?”
Well my friend, it’s simple:
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